Saturday, December 1, 2007

Since High School

It seems like high school was ages ago, but I guess that's just because so much has happened since then. For those of you whom I haven't seen or spoken to for a while, I'll fill you in on what I've been up to.

I guess I'll just start from right after high school...the summer I graduated was the hardest time of my life. In July of 2003 I got pregnant and it totally flipped my world upside down. Some of you may know who the guy was and some of you might not, and that doesn't matter. He didn't want to take on the responsibility and now I can see that it was for the best. I don't want to bore you with all of the little details of those 9 months, so to make a long story short I decided to do what was best for my baby...I decided to place him for adoption. I went throught the process and chose an amazing family. I had the privilage of meeting them once before the baby was born (just to make sure that I loved them in person as much as I loved them on paper). It turns out that this family had adopted a little girl just a year before Seth (their new son) was scheduled to be born, and they were/are the most amazing family I have ever met. It was the hardest dcision of my life, but as soon as I saw Kristi and Riley I knew that they were meant to be Seths parents. We wrote back and forth for about 3 months before Seth was born, and on April 14, 2004 he was born. He was the most beautiful baby that I had ever seen, and so sweet and peaceful. I chose to spend and entire day and night with him, and on the evening of April 15th I placed Seth Riley Wright in the arms of his new daddy. My whole family was there with me that night, and it was the most emotional night of my life. I was so happy to be able to give my baby a better life than I could have provided, and to give this special family the greatest "gift" in the world, but I was also torn up inside to see the baby that I had cared for and bonded with for 9 months go home with someone else. I cried myself to sleep for many many nights after that, not because I regretted my decision, but becuase I missed my baby. To this day I know that I made the right choice, but there are still days that I miss him. It's been just over three years and I still keep in touch with Seth's parents. We send pictures back and forth and emails every week. This last summer my mom and I had a chance to go to Utah and spend the day with Seth and his family. He is doing so well, and he loves his family so much. He knew who I was and he gave me a big hug before I left. Some people tell me that adoption is incredibly selfish, but I KNOW that it is the most unselfish decision that I could have ever made, becuase I gave my baby the life and the family that he deserves.


After that life changing time in my life I stayed in Rexburg and worked for about a year, and after that I decided to try EITC in Idaho Falls. I decided that I wanted to study web design. So I enrolled in school and got a job at the mall, but continued to live in Rexburg.

I started school, and little did I know that in one of my classes was a guy who would help to change my life forever. His name was/is Robb, and we got teamed up in class to work together on a few projects. After a few days of talking and getting to know eachother he asked me if I would mind going on a blind date with his brother in law...I didn't want to, but being the kind of person I am i couldn't say "no". So, one saturday in June I met up with my blind date, his sister, and her husband (my friend from class). I was pleased to see that my date was VERY good looking, and later found out that he was fun and intelligent as well! The date went well, and after that we went out a few more times. I got busy with my life, and Josh (my blind date) still claims that there were 2 weeks that I never called him back after he had called and left me a message. So I will say that 2 weeks went by and one afternoon while I was on a lunch break from work I called Josh to see how he had been. I was at McDonalds and he agreed to meet me there (although he was about to write me off as a lost cause). After that we stayed in touch and I ended up moving to IF to be close to work, school, and Josh. We started actually dating in August of 2005, and in March of 2006 he asked me to be his wife!
We got married on May 20th, 2006 (Seths parents came all the way from Utah), and went on our honeymoon to Florida (The first day of our honeymoon was a disaster, but if you wanna know that story you will have to ask). We went to Universal Studios, Disney World, and Sea World. It was sooo much fun!

We have now been married for a year and a half. I am now just working as a receptionist for Kingston Companies, and Josh just became the manager for the new Sherwin Whilliams store in Rexburg. We are still living in Idaho Falls....we don't have any kids yet, but we have two dogs that may as well be considered our sons. Life is great!

3 comments:

Tyler & Terrah Harper said...

Hi, Ashley:

I found your blog through Holly's, and I really like your story about giving your son up for adoption.

I was adopted when I was four days old, and I've often wondered about my birth parents, especially my birth mother. I wonder if she remembers me and if she ever thinks about me if she does remember me.

Your thoughts and feelings about Seth help me appreciate my birth mother's decision even more. I can't imagine the range of emotion such a decision would bring, but I am so grateful to my birth mother.

I have ultimate respect for her and the decision she made, and I also have a lot of respect for you. I can tell you, too, that Seth will continue to appreciate you as he grows up. You've given him the life that is best, and that is the most selfless act.

Birth mothers are the best! Thank you for being courageous, and thank you for sharing your story. It helps those of us who are adopted really appreciate our birth parents.

You're great!


~ Terrah Conrad Harper


P.S. I went to high school with Dustin. Please tell him "hello" for me when you see / talk to him next!

:)

Jeremy and Genevieve said...

Ashley- wow. I really respect you and the decision that you made. I htink that that is the most loving and unselfish decision that can be made. I am so happy for you that you are so happy now and seem to be doing so well. Its so good to talk to you again! Genevieve

Matt and Jenna said...

Hey Ashley:
Amazingly enough I don't think I ever knew this! What a tough thing to go through! What an amazing person you are! I'm so glad i found you on here!!