so i got home from work last night and josh was on the phone to an old friend of his. they hadn't talked in forever so they were catching up. josh had told the friend that we were expecting and the friend told him congrats and then proceeded to tell my husband how much the first year sucks and how once the baby arrives, the husband is pretty much pushed to the side and forgotten by the wife (thanks "friend" awesome encouragement)!
after the phone conversation josh came into the bedroom where i was laying on the bed, and cuddled up next to me and started telling me about the conversation. he "jokingly" told me that if that was the way this was all gonna be then he had changed his mind about the baby. i tried to tell him that the first few months are gonna be really hard, and that it wasn't fair for him to think that all women would "forget" about their husbands once the baby came (i tell myself that i will NEVER be that woman). but is there some truth to the horror stories that people tell AFTER you are already pregnant?
i'm no idiot....i know that it's gonna be hard at times (it can't all be fun and games), i know there will be a lot of sleepless nights, and days when the baby just wants to cry and we won't know why, and i even know that there will be times when i want to give josh my full attention and something with the baby will come up and he may feel a little ignored. i'm ok with learning how to work through all that, but what about the men? is it really as hellish on them as all their friends tell them it will be? as the wife..what can i do to make sure josh doesn't feel like he isn't as important to me anymore?
if anyone has any advise or tips or anything i would love to hear it. i just really don't want josh to not love this part of our life, and i need to know what i can do to make it easier on him.